If I was asked to describe myself in just one word it would be ‘Mum’ because I love being a Mum and Step-Mum.
Parenting has been the focus of my life since I was 18 years old. Don’t get me wrong, it’s tough and becoming a step-mum at 25 brought a different set of challenges. But raising those boys, 2 step-sons and 2 sons, has been just bloody brilliant! They are my pride and joy.
Now I’m 37, and those boys are pretty much grown.
The eldest, my step-son at 19 has just left home. No 2, the little baby that first made me a Mum, is 18, thinking about University. No 3, my other step-son is 17, busy flitting all over the place, making the most of his freedom, enjoying himself. Finally, no 4, the baby, my youngest is 16, embracing sixth form and itching for adventure somewhere else!
Already the house is much quieter, emptier, my boys are as they should be; busy with their own lives. I have to prepare myself for the inevitable; a life without any children at home, and it scares me.
What do Grown Ups Do?!
Seriously? I have no idea!
Here I am in a position where I have the time and the money, but I’m not really sure where to start. Having had my first child at 18, I didn’t have the opportunity to really spend any time being myself as an adult, developing hobbies, interests, making plans.
The habit of collapsing on the sofa, takeaway, vino, local pub has become ingrained, and it made sense when the boys were small, it was our little escape, but now it seems like a total waste of life.
The challenge is for me to start letting go. to start enjoying adult life without the responsibility of kids and to leave my kids to get on with their own lives without interference from me! (Trust me, the urge is overwhelming!!)
Empty Nest Survivor…
Is all about exploring life without the responsibility of small children, and finding ways of spending the time that used to be filled with child rearing! I have no idea what that is, but I intend to have some fun working it out!